Seminars with
120 Serb and Croat
Gymnasium Students a Success
TFF's
conflict-mitigation progresses in Eastern
Slavonia
Between March 22 and April 1, TFF
brought Serb and Croat students together for the first time
since the civil war of Autumn 1991. This is our
report:
EASTERN SLAVONIA - GENERAL
BACKGROUND
The mission of the UN in Eastern Slavonia, UNTAES, was
the peaceful reintegration of the region of Eastern
Slavonia, Baranja and Western Sirmium into the Republic of
Croatia. Until January 15, 1998, UNTAES exercised authority
over this region through a basic agreement of 12 November
1995 and through UN Security Council resolutions 1037 of 15
January 1996 and 1120 of 11 July 1997.
The follow-up consists of only a small group of
UN Civil Police and Civil Affairs staff. OSCE has less
than 200 personnel in place. There are also some European
military monitors (ECMM, the white suited brigade) who
continue to be in the region. All executive power has been
handed over to the Croatian government; the international
organisations only monitor.
According to the census of 1991, before the war 45
thousand people lived in Vukovar of whom 47% were Croat, 32%
Serb and the rest were of other minorities; 35 thousand
lived in Vinkovci, 80% Croat, 11% Serb; 105 thousand in
Osijek, 70% Croat, 12% Serb.
At the end of the UN mission, about 80,000 Serbs lived in
the region about a quarter of whom were DP's mainly from
Western Slavonia. Very few Croats are now there although
they have the right to return to their former home places.
Croatian police has taken over duties from UN personnel
during spring 1998. An exodus of Serbs was considered a
likely consequence of the UN leaving the region, but it
seems that they are departing on a more slow, regular basis
- many to Serbia and some to Norway and Canada.
This spring many observers predict that the majority of
the remaining Serbs who can will leave at the end of the
school year - not only because of ongoing incidents and
discrimination by bureaucracy but also because there are few
economic incentives to stay for citizens in general - a
major reason also why only few displaced Croats have come
back to Eastern Slavonia.
Most Serbs have now taken out Croatian citizenship and
have registered their cars with Croatian number plates.
Serbs now in Croatia have no right to citizenship in Serbia
that lies just East of the Danube, nor are they particularly
welcome there as there are already 650 thousand Serb DP's
living there mostly in poor conditions of housing and
employment.
Six years after the war in Eastern Slavonia that ruptured
Croat-Serb relations and destroyed lives, livelihoods, homes
and left fertile fields mined with shoulder high weeds as
they cannot be ploughed because of mines, the Croatian
government announced a national programme of trust building
with one woman in Zagreb to manage it all. At the same time
the diarrhoea of hostile anti-Serb rhetoric pours out of the
government controlled media and at meetings of the local
trust building committees.
It is a sad fact that the so-called "international
community" has had no coordinated strategy for the
post-UNTAES period of peacebuilding, economic reconstruction
and reconciliation. The area is also completely forgotten in
the media. Few psychological wounds have been healed;
although many young Croats and Serbs would want to stay,
they see only few opportunities to make a living in the
future. Others are just waiting, as they have little else to
do.
The schools
The region has 9 secondary schools with currently 5
Croat and 4 Serb principals. There are 41 other schools. A
crisis in Serb schools in the region was precipitated in
August 1997 by the announcement of the Minister of Education
of Croatia that Croat principals were to be imposed on
several of them for an interim period pending an open
competition for teaching positions.
The parents, teachers and pupils of several schools
boycotted the Croat principals and on several occasions the
pupils walked out of the schools in protest. Similar
protests occurred over the failure to provide text books in
Serbian using the cyrillic alphabet, and over Croat teachers
insisting that Serb pupils should use the Croat language and
Latin alphabet. [The Croat and Serb languages are almost
identical: they are simply like two different dialects.
Either could be written in the Latin or Cyrillic scripts:
the Latin is best suited to Croatian and the Cyrillic to the
Serbian].
Peacebuilding in the
region
The region must now go through all the vital aspects of
post-war peacebuilding and normalisation. Economic
reconstruction is vital as the destruction, not the least of
Vukovar, is comprehensive, systematic and complete. Refugees
and displaced persons (DPs) from various parts of Eastern
Slavonia must be given a chance to return; for this to
happen, DPs and refugees who used to live elsewhere in
Croatia or Bosnia must be given opportunities to return to
where they fled from. This huge project creates legal,
administrative and infrastructural problems way beyond, it
seems, the organisational capacity of the central government
and the municipalities of Croatia.
There is also the integration of each sector, e.g. the
school. In this region many schools lack teaching materials,
teachers in various subjects, funds to repair the schools -
not to speak about investment in modern equipment. There is
still a considerable mistrust between Croat and Serb
principals, teachers and pupils and working conditions
leaves much to be desired particularly in Serb-majority
schools. In general, the everyday situation is considerably
better in both Vinkovci and Osijek, i.e. outside the war
devastated region in which the UN had executive
power.
LITTLE DEVELOPMENT TOWARD PEACEFUL
INTEGRATION
It is our conclusion based on 7 missions since summer
1996 throughout Eastern Slavonia that policies directed
toward the human dimensions of integration and
trust-building must be characterised as far too little far
too late. This applies to the activities of the
international community as well as the policies of the
Croatian government.
This is not the place to discuss whether this is due to
lack of genuine good will, knowledge, resources or
administrative capability. It's probably a combination of
all these factors. It's just a sad fact for anyone to
witness; it is a major reason why Croats are not returning
in any large numbers at the time of writing (April 1998) and
that Serbs are slowly but surely leaving the region for
Yugoslavia and elsewhere.
It looks like the UN and the international community
helped Croatia to integrate the region in terms of
territory, legal and administrative routines and in terms of
law and order and everybody thought that the integration and
peaceful co-existence of people would then follow
automatically. If so, this has already proven to be a false
assumption with catastrophic consequences for thousands of
ordinary citizens.
In spite of this, the UNTAES mission did achieve a lot
within a short time span. It could have done more had the
international community not bowed that easily to Croatia's
request that UNTAES should leave in the middle of the
process.
It is noteworthy that the Croatian government, on the
initiative of President Dr. Franjo Tudjman and then UN
Transitional Administrator, Jacques Klein, has set up a
National Committee with local chapters for Re-Building of
Trust. However, its organisation and budget seems to be
tiny, its members handpicked in Zagreb and very few of them
seem to be professionally knowledgeable about or trained in
matters relevant to reconciliation, trust-building, peace
education, conflict-resolution, etc.
THE PURPOSE OF TFF's MISSION
In this situation TFF has achieved a break-through in
bringing 120 Serb and Croat final year students together for
four day long seminars in which they found out face to face
who their peers are on the other side are, what they share
in common, in music , sport, friendships, and their hopes
and doubts about their common future in Croatia. 'We are not
guilty for the war', they said, 'just victims', who affirmed
almost without exception that this coming together was
transforming in awareness of each other, was enriching,
exciting, fun. 'Why did you wait so long', they asked.
The overall purpose of TFF's exercise during this mission
- its 30th to what was once Yugoslavia - was to enable
gymnasium students in Eastern Slavonia to meet and listen to
those from the other side of the conflict in order that they
might in the future live peaceably with each other as
citizens of Croatia. Although they live only a few miles
apart, they had not met since 1991 because of the
displacement and alienation produced by the war.
It came as one of more follow-ups to the Foundation's
work for the UN Mission and teaching provided by its
team members at a series of Council of Europe seminars held
during autumn 1997 with principals and teachers. Each
involved gymnasium had been visited and principals, head
teachers and parents informed in advance about the purpose
of the seminars.
TFF director Jan Oberg, Kerstin Schultz and Peter
Jarman, as members of the Foundation's conflict mitigation
team, assisted by a local and versatile Serb business woman
from the village of Dalj, Bosiza "Becky" Klajic, facilitated
four day-long seminars between four groups of about 14 Serb
students from Vukovar, three groups of about 14 Croat
students from gymnasiums 1 to 3 in Osijek and 14 Croat
students from the economics gymnasium in Vinkovci. Prior to
these meetings we prepared each group of students by three
hour sessions with them primarily concerned with encouraging
them to be in touch with their feelings and to use 'I'
statements. Altogether 10 meetings were facilitated.
The evaluation made by the students at the end of each
seminar was very positive about their value in helping to
heal the violence of the conflict, and in enabling the
students to have confidence that they could live alongside
each other. One purpose highlighted by meetings held with
the Vukovar students in October 1997 was the need to assure
them that they could have confidence in seeking to enter
higher education in the faculties of Osijek and Zagreb.
Planning and
preparation
This work was substantially prepared through several
visits made by JO and KS to Eastern Slavonia before October
1997 when PJ joined them in several more visits at the
suggestion and support of the UN temporary administration in
the region, UNTAES, and a further visit by JO and KS in
January 1998. These visits and the one described in this
report were financed by the Swedish International
Development Agency, SIDA (of the Swedish government on the
recommendation of its ambassador in Zagreb).
Since our last visit in December, JO had had a long
conversation with the (outgoing) Minister of Education, Ms.
Ljiljana Vokic, with the Ministry's regional officers and
Vesna Skare-Ozbolt, the Chair of the National Commission for
Re-establishment of Trust announced by the Croatian
government on October 2 1997 ('the Republic of Croatia
strives to promote a way of life in which forgiveness,
tolerance, coexistence and equal rights of all its citizens
are a foundation for progress and development'), with local
representatives of the education ministry and principals of
gymnasiums.
We began this mission by calling on the local Croat
education ministry officials, Zdenka Buljan in Vinkovci and
Ksenija Zbozil in Osijek. Zdenka Buljan met us dressed
completely in black and for a time could only speak of the
sudden death six weeks previously of her husband in his late
50's from injuries received during the war. They were due to
return to Vukovar this Summer from whence they were
displaced in the Autumn of 1991. Nevertheless she endorsed
our exercise of trust building.
We also met the principals of the gymnasiums whose
students took part in the seminars. One was most supportive
even though many of his students were displaced persons, the
Croat principal of the Vukovar gymnasium gradually warmed to
the exercise and his introductory remarks to the seminars
were sensitive and supportive; one Osijek Principal was
sullen, indifferent and barely cooperative although the
final year students were most supportive and encouraging.
Another Osijek principal could not be contacted as he seemed
to be seldom in his office but one of his pedagogues was
helpful.
We ensured that parents gave permission for their
daughters or sons to participate in the seminars which in a
few cases was refused or withdrawn at the last moment as was
the case with two girls in Vinkovci whose fathers had died
during the war. We asked for final year students whose
English enabled them to participate in those parts of the
seminars that were conducted in English. (For the two or
three students whose English was too weak for this, we used
an interpreter or peer interpretation).
Two seminars were held in the Hotel Dunav in Vukovar, the
Croat students coming from Vinkovci and Osijek by bus
accompanied by PJ and an interpreter, and another of the TFF
team driving a car immediately behind the bus. The other two
seminars were held in the libraries of two of the gymnasiums
in Osijek with students from Vukovar being bussed in with
the same accompaniment. Police in Vukovar and Osijek were
advised about the exercise - there were several police
around the Vukovar hotel most of the time anyway. The
seminars were opened by brief speeches from the principals
involved. Otherwise there were no teachers present at the
seminars.
PREPARING THE STUDENTS FOR THE
ENCOUNTER
In preparing the students for their encounter with the
other side, we encouraged them to get in touch with their
feelings. In different pairs, they asked each other 'when
recently did you feel really happy?', 'when did you feel
angry?', 'when did you make someone else unhappy by what you
said or did to them which you afterwards regretted?', and
'what did you do or say to another person that made them
happy?' We encouraged them to respond by 'I' statements: 'I
felt angry when .....', 'I felt happy when .....' For later
in the inter- ethnic seminars we wanted them to use 'I'
statements rather than 'you' statements: 'you started this
trouble'.
Then in the preparatory single ethnic meetings, students
were invited to express their feelings about meeting
students from the other side for the first time. 'Curious',
'very curious', 'interested', 'a little scared', 'we can
never live again together as we did before the war', 'I have
no wish to be close friends with them', 'I'll listen to them
if they will listen to me', 'I want to know what they
experienced during the war'. In visits previously we also
heard 'If they come here, we'll kill them', 'They started
it', 'I hate them', but these voices were not heard during
our later visit.
We met some displaced students quite severely
traumatised, but most students seemed to be normal European
teenagers except that for six years they had not met their
peers who live just a few kilometres away, and who for that
period had only received a one sided version of what had
happened during the war.
A few students adamantly proclaimed that they were not
going to be manipulated by the media or by politicians, nor
even by their parents: they were going to find out for
themselves.
THE AGENDA OF THE
SEMINARS
Getting acquainted
The agenda of the four seminars was similar: welcome
from the principals, students initially seated in a circle
but in ethnic groups, invitation to all to give their first
names, place where they grew up, where they were during
Autumn 1991 and what interests/hobbies they had.
Then PJ introduced a Buddhist brass bell/bowl from the
foothills of the Himalayas that was invited to sound. At
further sounds of this bell during each seminar, all
participants were encouraged to be still and to be in touch
with their true inner selves and with what they had heard
from the others.
Students with certain common interests such as in sport,
music, or poetry were invited to stand so that common
interests could be reinforced. Identifying compass
directions around objects on the floor standing for Vukovar
and Osijek/Vinkovci, students and the TFF team were invited
to stand where they grew up, and then where they were in
June and in December 1991. This illustrated the clustering
and displacement of participants during the war.
We then invited the host group to choose one of their
guests and to interview each other to find out 'who are
you?' We were relieved to observe how eagerly hosts moved
their chairs so as to be close to one of their guests.
Animated conversation ensured for a good quarter of an hour
before we asked the entire group what they had found out
about the others.
We then broke up into two smaller groups and used
fish-bowl techniques to explore more about what each thought
of the other, before we broke for an interval of drinks and
biscuits.
Dealing with remembrance and
mourning
After this break we held a meeting of remembrance and
mourning. We used the precious Buddhist brass bowl that when
invited to sound as a bell, invited seminar participants to
be silent, in touch with their inner selves and with what
they had heard. In the critical session in which they were
invited to share a particularly painful experience that had
happened to them personally during the war, they first had
to retrieve the bowl from the centre of the room and hold it
whilst speaking. All others without that bowl were
encouraged to listen.
The bell was placed in the middle of the circle - by now
it was ethnically well mixed - and ground rules were
described and reinforced: that only a person picking up and
holding the bowl was permitted to speak, everybody else
should listen attentively, that each person was to speak
from out of their own experience and about their own
feelings - using 'I' statements, and that we would use this
time to share experiences of loss through bereavement,
destruction of homes, and loss of childhood.
To set the tone PJ began by speaking about the death of
his son and his son's girlfriend though a car accident
caused by the inattentive driving of an old man. He
mentioned the need for forgiveness, of the person rather
than the deed. Addressing the pain and hurt of the past was
a vital part of the meeting.
During each of these sessions there were quite long
periods of silence, an experience that we found very moving
for we felt that we all were upholding each other with the
pain that each of us has borne in life. A pain which cannot
be forgotten, a pain that may well elicit forgiveness, but a
pain that must not engender a hate that can block and ruin
the future. When someone spoke from out of that stillness
about their pain and hurt, their feelings were truly
appreciated as a cathartic act.
Reconciliation does not mean forgetting; it may well
require repentance and forgiveness; it does mean that the
hurt of the past must not ruin the future. We felt that the
students really appreciated this.
We listened to some of the pain of what had happened to
them during the war: being shelled; fathers killed, wounded,
taken prisoner, tortured; other close relatives killed;
homes destroyed, a child friend being killed by a hand
grenade. For all of them, much of the joy of their childhood
was stolen from them.
In each of these sessions there was a substantial silence
and stillness, until someone was moved to speak, about the
loss of dear ones, or of harrowing experiences, or of the
loss of homes or of the joy of childhood. KS and JO
sometimes spoke of the grief in their own lives. Several
broke down in tears. PJ referred to the possible different
ways in which black Africans and Europeans find, or do not
find, ways of preventing the hurt of the past ruining the
future. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, but a special
way of remembering, we felt.
Some Croats were shocked to see for the first time the
condition of Vukovar. Quite apart from hundreds of homes,
enterprises and public buildings left as they were destroyed
in 1991, without a brick being restored, there is little if
any investment in job opportunities, and already half of the
pre-war Serb community in Eastern Slavonia has left. One
Serb student in taking the bowl to speak broke down as she
spoke of yet another time when she would lose her close
friends, a boy friend and a cousin, who were leaving for
Serbia. The quality of life and leisure is so much better in
Vinkovci and Osijek.
We recognised the need to surface from these heavy
moments before lunch as the students would then be expected
to spend two hours in which the hosts accompanied their
guests around their town and got to know them better. We
failed to do this on the first seminar and this adversely
affected the potential of the lunch break relationships.
Subsequently we had a round of what makes me feel good, or
what I am good at, before breaking for lunch.
Moving from the past toward the
future
After the lunch break we reassembled to share what had
happened during the two hours break. Then the students
paired off as they had in the morning with one serving as a
listener to the hopes and expectations of the other about
their personal development over the next two to five years,
and what might prevent these hopes being realised. The
listeners were invited to report back to the whole group,
and to add their own expectations.
In two of the seminars Croat students said that they saw
as little future for themselves within Croatia as the Serb
students did. In general the groups recognised that the
Serbs in Vukovar had greater problems about their future and
that of their parents than did the Croats, but the problem
of financing their further or higher education was common to
both.
In one group the Croats were very cynical about the
degree of corruption they perceived amongst their
government's officials and in at least two seminars the
Croats insisted that they were not going to be manipulated
in their opinions either by their parents or by the
government or its media. The Serbs seemed to be less
critical about what was influencing them.
Then in each seminar in small groups a highly animated
brain-storm was held about the future of Eastern Slavonia,
what was felt to be its most desirable features.
This appeared to be a novel experience for them, to throw
up ideas in an uncritical way, and to report back on what
had come up. This worked well in most groups and in plenary
we encouraged them to criticise and prioritise what had been
suggested.
We were surprised that some Croat students felt as much
despair of their future within Croatia as the Serbs. In one
meeting ten of them insisted that there was corruption in
higher education in Croatia: people bought they way into it
and bought their qualifications. Nearly all said that they
would find it hard to finance their higher education: they
would probably have to earn some money through odd jobs.
Some felt that after graduation they would have to find jobs
elsewhere in Europe.
Lots of more or less "futuristic" proposals were made for
the future of Vukovar and Eastern Slavonia, even Croatia.
Here follow some with direct relevance for reconciliation
and peacebuilding among the students:
Leave Vukovar in ruins, for us all to
remember...
Rebuild Vukovar, a city for the young, schools, park
and colleges; tourism, the water tower could stand as a
memorial...
A community without politicians, no Tudjman, no
police, no military. We want normal politicians, no border,
no passports...
Care for Nature, a clean Danube, multinational
peaceful co-existence, love...
Jobs for all, places to go out, cafes, sports
facilities, no guns, a quiet place to go to, a centre to
deal with aids and drugs, an Internet cafe...
Better schools! Education for peaceful co-existence,
a cultural centre, a "Hundertwasser" house...
Police, yes - but a different kind, Croatia must have
a stronger army, NATO membership, Disneyworld,
entertainment, casinos, discos...
Camps for young people to meet and work together,
students exchange, focus education on social problems,
ecology and media/communication...
We must tell many more people what we experienced
today, in the media; more people must know how we young
people feel. Serb and Croat youth could produce a newspaper
together. Freedom of the media and no censorship. A common
radio station.
All nationalities should live freely in Eastern
Slavonia, good education, culture and education could
attract people from all over Europe - we have a great
potential here!
Let's ride a boat together on the Danube, as a
multiethnic, cultural manifestation...
A rock concert with Serb and Croat musicians and
singers from both Croatia and Serbia. Let profits go to
rebuilding Vukovar.
The government should sponsor summer camps for
children and youth. Help children to get over the war
experience.
SOME OBSERVATIONS AND FUTURE
NEEDS
The exercise needs to be followed up. We were delighted
to find two Serb students from Vukovar had taken the
initiative of returning to Osijek by public bus to continue
with their contacts with Croat students there - we met them
in the Old Square by accident three days after they had
previously participated in a seminar in Osijek.
This was but a small exercise in which deliberately we
chose to work with students willing and keen to take part.
We made no attempt to engage with hard-line students who
hated the other side and did not want to meet them. During
earlier missions we had met some individuals with very deep
hurt, particularly at technical schools and lower-level
educational institutions. We had decided that other NGOs
with relevant expertise and longterm, continued engagement
in the region should be encouraged to deal with the traumas
and hate of this youth.
Nor did we work at all with parents or with teachers
during this mission. During our numerous visits to schools
throughout the sector and during the Council of Europe/UN
seminars last autumn, we had met hundreds of teachers,
listened to their problems and views and, in some cases,
conducted small seminars with them in the teachers' room.
Many of them had recommended us to focus our attention for a
while at the pupils.
However we noticed a softening of attitudes over the six
months in which we have been in contact with the gymnasium
principals. When we first asked the principal of one of the
Osijek gymnasiums in October if some of his students could
meet Serb students, he said 'I don't want to have anything
to do with Serbs', before slamming down his phone. (He was
wounded when fighting during the civil war). Subsequently we
were told several times that he was ill. However this March
he drove with his students to Vukovar and addressed the Serb
and Croat students there at the opening of one of the
seminars and referred to the National Committee for
Re-establishment of Trust and the need for tolerance.
The students of their own free will but with parents'
condescension or support had the interest and courage to
meet their peers on the other side of the separation between
Croats and Serbs in Eastern Slavonia caused by the war. Once
in the same room, they soon eagerly got to know each other.
Only twice in four seven hour encounters was there any
provocation, and this was quickly dispelled by strict
observance of the ground rules of speaking only from
personal experience and only when given permission by
everyone to speak through holding the bowl.
'But it's easy for us to come together', they said. 'Now
do it with out parents, our teachers, and the less
intellectual of our peers'.
EVALUATION
The seminr ended with each student filling in a detailed
questionnaire about the seminar, indicating on a scale from
0 (unhelpful) to 5 (good and helpful) responses to a series
of questions. We were relieved and encouraged to find the
array of 5's appearing on these sheets, and the additional
comments made on them.
In general students wanted more of this activity, were
very grateful for the meetings, wanted to meet again on the
other side and to have other joint activities. Suggestions
were made about joint summer camps and contributing to each
other's newspapers.
The exercise was amazingly successful in trust
building.
Here follows a summary of all the students' evaluations
and a few typical comments selected among hundreds written
by the students:
- Did you learn something new today? - 3.8
- Did the seminar meet the expectations you had when you
came? - 3.6
- Think of what you have learnt. How useful will it be
for you in your everyday work in the future? - 3.7
- Did you feel that you could influence the work we did
today and make your points, if you wanted - was it
democratic? - 4.2
- How much did you sympathise with the message or content
of what Kerstin, Peter and Jan said? - 4.6
- What do you think about Kerstin's, Peter's and Jan's
pedagogical ability to make their points clearly understood?
- 4.8
- How did you find the balance between your own work and
Kerstin's, Peter's and Jan's instructions and viewpoints? -
4.2
- Please think of the day as a whole. How would you rate
it? - 4.3
- Is there one single thing you will remember?
I'm very happy to be part of this program and I
think we could do it more often. I am really surprised how
all this has come out, and I want to thank you for
organising this meeting (Os).
It's been great today. Come visit us people from
Osijek (Vu).
I'll remember every minute I spent with youth from
Osijek, because this is my first meeting with them. I spent
very nice time and I want to continue the friendship we
built (Vu).
The thing I will remember because it is so useful
is "brainstorm". It showed me something I wasn't so much
aware of - that's how powerful I am in creating my own
future, and that's something I have to have constantly on my
mind (Os).
Everybody were very friendly and talkative, I
didn't expect that kind of situation. Especially when we
went out for a break, we were singing together...it was
quite nice (Os).
It is much more difficult for them than for us
(Os).
I know I am not the only one who was hurt in this
stupid war (Vi).
I'll remembers that we started yelling at each
other (Vi).
I will remember the tears of all the people who
lost somebody and something. Also, some affirms, opinions
from the other group, in some way they heard me. I keep in
mind opinions that are similar to my opinions, too!
(Vi).
Yes, they still don't understand they are in
Croatia! (Vi).
I will remember the hate I felt from some persons.
I did not expect it. But I will also remember some persons
who were really great.
Talking with the bell in the hand. It was very
dignified (Os).
Yes, I saw Vukovar for the first time in my life
and I saw only ruins. That's what I will remember all of my
life (Os).
I'll always remember the story about truth, the
tree and its leaves. It's a really good idea. I also won't
forget all those sad stories full of emotions that I've
heard today (Os).
Yes, the first time I saw the group from Vukovar
coming I thought: "God, they look like humans!" (Os).
I'll remember that we should forgive and not
forget - 'cause if we forget, the mistake would be repeated
(Os).
My new friend and beautiful girls (name given!)
(Vu).
- Anything else you want to say? Please do!
This kind of things should absolutely be done more
often with more and more people (Os).
I think when somebody ask me: Which is one of my
nicer days this year? - I would probably say: among other,
this one (Os).
The truth lies in history, but the history you
must discover yourself. In my country, ideology writes the
history (Os).
It would be nice if we could have another meeting,
next in Vukovar. Or we could have a picnic together
(Os).
Croats want to have a state which is independent
(Os).
I think I will never ever have a bad dream or
nightmares now (Vi).
I think we can't be truly friends because of our
parents' past (Vi)
We will come back (Vi).
They still don't understand that they are in
Croatia. We will come back no matter they are here or not
(Vi) (2)
There were too many provocations. I liked your
advanced work and how you do that job! (Vu)
I think nationality is not important, we are all
human beings and we all had a bad experience and we have bad
memories. But we are not guilty for it and I am absolutely
against politics (Vu).
I was impressed with my new friends from Vinkovci
who tried to show feelings. I did not show everything that I
wanted and what I felt. I would like to share my feelings,
again with all who wish to be a friend and be human
(Vu).
Kerstin, Jan and Peter were good but they don't
understand our situation (Vi). I understand that they want
all best for us but they haven't been in this situation and
lived with all that fear and disappointment. Between Serbs
and Croats there would always be differences (Vi).
We will never be able to live together.
More seminars like this with older people (2).
Keep working, it will help us in the future (Os)
(2).
You have a noble cause and you do your job very
well. I hope you will be rewarded for it. But I think you
should appeal to higher organisations and try to improve our
education because the primitives are the guilty ones. Do not
try to clean the mess only, try to prevent the mess - if you
have the power. Our aim "human wealth" will be fatal for our
human race (Os).
It is nice to know that someone cares (Os).
We must be friends so that next generations live
in peace! (Vu).
You were so good!!!! (Vu).
Yugoslavia needed to be destroyed (Os).
One of the students sent us the following e-mail the
day after:
" There is no particular reason for this letter except
for me to acknowledge you that I liked your program very
much, especially the bell... :)) The thing you did
yesterday was most wonderful expirience in my life. I
never thought that I could walk, talk or have fun with
Serbs after such small amount of time. It was all thanks
to you."
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